Hey, Fellow Dads,
Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get enough attention but is absolutely critical to our well-being: friendships. As dads, we give so much of ourselves to our families, careers, and responsibilities that we often neglect one of the most essential tools for happiness, health, and sanity — meaningful friendships. Too many of us are living in silos, disconnected from like-minded men who share our values, challenge us, and remind us that we don’t have to do this alone.
I’ll be the first to admit I’m not immune to this struggle. I’ve got plenty of ‘niche’ acquaintances — the guys I work out with, the ones I talk shop with, and even my buddy Chad, who’s good for a laugh (and some truly questionable karaoke) after 30 Busch Lites. But here’s the thing: these surface-level connections, as fun as they might be, don’t quite fill the gap that only deep, meaningful friendships can. Real friendships — the kind where you can be vulnerable, honest, and unapologetically yourself — are vital. They allow us to process our emotions, have hard conversations, and hold each other accountable to what truly matters.
Here’s the hard truth: without those real, meaningful connections, we’re not just lonely — we’re at risk.
Studies show that men are 70% more likely to pass away after losing a spouse compared to women, who are only 27% more likely. Why? Because women tend to have stronger social connections, while we, as men, often let those friendships fall by the wayside. It’s not just about us, either. When we neglect our need for connection, it impacts our families. We can’t give our best to them if we’re running on empty.
Dads, it’s time to change the narrative. It’s time to value friendships not as a luxury, but as a necessity for living a full and healthy life. In this blog, I’ll share six actionable tips to build better friendships and a bonus tip to teach your kids why friendships matter, too. Let’s dive in.
1. Recognize the Value of Friendships
The first step is understanding that friendships aren’t just “nice to have” — they’re essential. Friends help us de-stress, boost our mental health, and even extend our lifespans. But as dads, we often put ourselves last, focusing on family and work while letting our friendships fall by the wayside. Here’s the kicker: to show up as the best version of ourselves for our families, we need to take care of ourselves first. And having friends is a big part of that equation.
2. Audit Your Current Friendships
Take a moment to reflect on the friendships you already have. Who are the people you truly connect with? Maybe it’s an old friend from school or a co-worker who’s become a close confidant. Identify these relationships and make an intentional effort to nurture them. It doesn’t have to be complicated — even a monthly phone call or quick catch-up over coffee can keep those bonds strong.
3. Get Involved in Your Community
If you’re looking to form new friendships, start by putting yourself out there. Join a sports league, attend a local dad group, or volunteer for a cause you care about. These activities allow you to meet people with shared interests, and they give you a chance to step out of your daily grind. Community involvement doesn’t just help others — it helps you, too.
4. Leverage Social Media the Right Way
Social media often gets a bad rap, but it can also be a powerful tool for connection — when used wisely. For example, the Good Dads Club Facebook group is a great space to meet other dads who “get it.” You can share experiences, swap advice, and even form lasting friendships. These virtual connections can sometimes lead to real-world friendships, too, which makes them all the more valuable.
5. Prioritize Friendships on Your Calendar
If you want to maintain friendships, you have to treat them like any other priority in your life. Schedule time for meet-ups, whether it’s grabbing coffee, watching a game, or simply hanging out. The key is to make it consistent. If it’s important to you, it deserves a spot on your calendar.
6. Be Open to New Connections
New friendships often come from unexpected places. That guy you see at your kid’s basketball practice or the neighbor you’ve only waved to in passing might turn into a great friend if you make the effort. Be open, extend an invitation, and see where it goes. Friendships don’t just happen — they’re built.
Bonus: 7. Teach Your Kids the Value of Friendship
Your kids are always watching, so let them see you model the importance of friendship. Show them what it looks like to invest in relationships, resolve conflicts, and support those you care about. This not only strengthens your bond with them but also helps them grow into emotionally healthy, well-rounded adults.
Dads, friendships are more than just a way to pass the time — they’re a lifeline. They help us stay grounded, bring us joy, and even make us healthier. So don’t wait for friendships to come to you. Be intentional. Reach out to old friends, meet new ones, and keep showing your kids what it looks like to value relationships.
🍻 Cheers to good friends and being great dads!
